Did you know that women lose 45 days of sleep every year thanks to their partner? That’s over one month’s worth of sweet dreams and relaxation being lost to discomfort, overheating, and stolen bed sheets.
There are several reasons why you can’t sleep next to your partner. These include uncomfortable body temperatures, motion transfer, and disruptive noises. In other words, your partner may just be too hot, too restless, and too noisy.
Your sleep is important for both your physical and mental health. Not only does it recover tiredness and reduce stress, but continual sleep deprivation has been linked to an increased risk of heart disease, high blood pressure, and diabetes.
Therefore, it’s very important to ensure that you can sleep well, even if you share a bed with your partner. Fortunately, the solution is simple. Here, we look at the ways you can learn to love your bed, sleep, and partner again.
Let’s go back to basics. A good bed is essential when trying to curate a great night’s sleep. But it can also help prevent our partner’s annoying habits that stop you from nodding off. Have you considered that it may be your mattress which contributes to snoring patterns or continual movement throughout the night? A new mattress may be the solution to all your problems.
Restlessness in bed, or motion transfer, is a consequence of poor support from your mattress. Looking for a position on the bed which adequately holds your body comfortably in place can lead to some people moving throughout the night or moving into a central part of the bed. This, in turn, can disturb their partner or leave them with little room.
The solution can be a mattress with an intelligent design. For example, a hybrid mattress offers the best of both spring and memory-foam mattresses. While large spring sizes offer a comfortable firmness, the foam reduces the amount of disturbing movement. This is perfect for any couple dealing with an unwelcome amount of tossing and turning throughout the night.
While any good relationship can benefit from a little movement in the bedroom, it’s best not to let a little movement when you want to sleep break things up.
It’s estimated that 41.5 per cent of the adult UK population snore. Unbelievably, a survey found that 24 per cent men have broken up with an ex-partner due to snoring. Preventing this in your relationship should be a priority.
There are solutions out there, including snoring machines, nose strips, and specially designed pillows. But these can often be expensive and more inconvenient than the snoring itself. But if snoring is such a big problem in your relationship, it’s likely that you’ve already tried these methods. Instead, other simple resolves can be cheaper and yield just as good results.
White noise, for example, does not cure snoring, but it can help you to sleep better. Your brain will focus on the quiet tone of the noise while drowning out other distracting noises such as traffic or snoring.
Like other snoring cures, white noise machines can be expensive. However, many mobile applications can achieve the same job for free. It may take a little while to get used to, but it’s an easier sound to love than the heavy-breathing-cackles of your partner.
Bedtime… and a time for everything else
Sleep time is sacred – and for some, interrupting this time is close to sacrilege. The NHS recommends that adults get between six to nine hours of sleep per night. For our own health, we must get this sleep, but our partner’s body temperature and the restrictive nature of cuddles can stop us from getting some expertly recommended shut-eye.
Therefore, the solution to this problem cannot be found in the form of an app or a new mattress, but in the power to say: “Let me sleep!”
After an enjoyable period of bedroom activity, it’s nice to embrace your partner for a short while before sleep. But it may be detrimental to your sleep if you attempt to stay in this loving position all night. Understanding when you need your own space is essential. There’s nothing cold-hearted about wanting your own space in bed, as it only avoids overheating.
Being separate in bed and getting more sleep may be more beneficial for your relationship. More sleep has proven to increase sexual desire. One study found that an extra one hour of sleep reflected a 14 per cent increase in odds of engaging in sexual activity in the morning.
Distinguishing your sleeping hours may just save your relationship. Layout the times you want to cuddle and the time you want to sleep.
Sleeping in the same bed as our partner is one of the most intimate and loving activities we can do. It represents unity and a willingness to be around each other – but it shouldn’t become a chore. There are various solutions to combat the nuisance of movement, heat, and snoring through the night. It just takes a little acceptance to understand that it’s a problem. Hopefully, you’ll be back to perfect sleep in no time.